You have probably have heard the saying, “There are two thing that you can always count on. It is death and taxes. I want to add a third element that haunts our steps. It is fear and everyone has felt it at least once in our lives. Fear can stop us from having happiness and becoming who we want to be in this life.

There are many books on the subject. If you have read a book on the subject, you should be able to handle it perfectly. Can you? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to read a book and presto, you have changed your life. The truth we have to choose to implement the principles into our lives.

Choice is a governing principle of the universe and we are bound to it. You had to choose to take you first breath and you have to choose to implement the techniques that you read in a book. I have read over two hundred books on self-help. If you want the success from what you read, you have to choice to implement them into your life.

Fear is an emotion and it is a action word. What I mean about fear being an action word. You have to take an action with fear. When you feel it, you will hide, fight or flight. Sometimes, we experience shock at the same time we feel fear. If this has happened to you, then you have added another problem.

As a little girl, my oldest brother thought it was funny to take me and through me up into the air. He would say, he wanted to see if I could hit the ceiling. The ceilings were ten feet in height. It would have impossible for me to actually hit it.

A two year old doesn’t understand that concept. Every time, he threw me up. I would scream and cry. With each toss, I held my breath. I was experiencing shock and fear at the same time, so they became attacked to it each other.

In the future, my mind brought up the shock every time I would even stand on a chair. I relieved the fear of being tossed up into the air. It would cause me to be consumed with fear. I relived everything right down to me holding my breath. If I stayed on the chair for too long, I would pass out from not breathing.

When we feel fear, we all hope that it will go away with time. I would have gone to my grave being afraid of any height without me doing something about it. I learned how to go back and release my mind from that frozen moment of being afraid.

I learned how to reprogram my mind to release any memory of being afraid. It has improved my life greatly. Sooner or later, we have to deal with fear or we spend the rest of our life avoiding or medicating our fears. Fear keeps us from growing and it will steal our dreams. You might want to deny what I said but down deep. You know it is true.

How did I get rid of my fear? The first rule of dealing with fear, you have to acknowledge you are afraid and it is okay. Sometime, we are embarrassed to admit that we are afraid to do something. It might make us appear weak.

Somewhere along the way, we promised ourselves that we would always be strong. Weakness was not acceptable. Once you have acknowledge it. You need to look at it. Why does this stop me cold?

You need to look at your fear from all angles so you can understand it. For me, when I asked me mind to back to the first time I felt paralyzing fear. It took me to my brother. I found embracing the moment with love and forgiveness removed the mind from the shock of feeling it. Love is a very healing emotion and you need to give it to yourself daily.

I sent love to myself until I felt the fear drifting out the window that my brother was standing next too. When the fear disappeared out the window, it left me. I sent it away through the window by choosing to let it go.

I knew it had left because I became consumed with a peaceful feeling. It is okay to feel fear. It becomes a problem when you do not allow it to leave you. Sometimes, we make the mistake of holding on it, thinking it is our duty. You can feel the fear and then you need to let it float through you. I hope this helps you. It works for me.

If you want more information, you read it in the book “Hot to Rebuild Shattered Dreams.” I also have a young adult series called “Stones Quest.” It’s a Sci-Fi/Fantasy series. The people are just like you but their technology is completely different. Along with their education, lifestyle and adventure, it is a fun, fast paced adventures read.

Do you like to make New Year resolutions? At the beginning of every year, we all make or we talk about making ‘New Year resolutions.’ How many of us achieve our goals? Over the years, I’ve only met a handful of people who are pleased with their results at the end of the year. Most of us have forgotten what goals we set. We have lost interest early in the year or we decided they were too hard and we quit.
Why do some goals appear to be so hard to achieve? It could because the goal will require change and some of us don’t like change. Some of the time, change is a unknown factor and we aren’t sure if can handle it. If you find yourself afraid of the unknown, it is usually because we are afraid on how to handle it. What happens if something is something that I’ve never experienced before? Can I handle it? Will it be something that will hurt me?
If this is you, I suggest you might want to change your perspective regarding change. This is my favorite quote and it’s by Sir Winston Churchill. He said, “To improve is to change. To be perfect is to change often.”
Change can be wonderful, I choose to change a lot and it has brought me some wonderful rewards. The quote sat on my desk for quite awhile. Every time, I wanted to accomplish a goal. I usually saw that I would have to change something and do it different to achieve my goal. The quote reminded it was okay and everything would fine.
In my new book, ‘How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams’, I talk about how wonderful change can be in your life and how it can bless you. There is an art to change. If it is approached right, you can have change be wonderful. You need to do it with the right attitude or it will not be a good experience.
Remember, you can have everything taken away in this life. If you approach it right with the right attitude. You can rebuild a life that is stronger and far more vibrant then what was taken away. Please feel free to comment. Next time, I’m going to talk about any of these subjects below:
• Constants Fears
• Stress
• Unhappiness
• Abandonment – Finding Yourself Alone in Life
• Self Imposing Limits
• Change Core Beliefs
• Depression
• Fatigue
• Anxiety
• Anger
• Grief
• Guilt
• Negative Emotions
• Anxiety over Something that Might Happen in the Future
• Phobic Responses
• Inner Conflicts
• Learned how to stretch your mind. You have to conceive before you can achieve
• Trauma
• Self-Worth
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