You can go directly to the survey that is next to this article now or read what the survey is about.

It has been a while since I have written and it hasn’t been because I haven’t wanted to. My life has been turned upside down. Readers from my book “How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams,” have requested me to hold some seminars in our local area.

At the same time I started to do them, I received notice that I needed to rewrite six chapters of my new book due out in June. Everything I was working on was pushed to the side, including the blog. During my three seminars, my eyes were opened up to how many people are struggling with emotional pain and frustration. I have been healed for so many years, I had forgotten what it was like.

It has been overwhelming to realize how many people want me to personally help them rid themselves from emotional pain. Originally, I thought I could do it through blogging, telling people about how our minds process our life experiences. On the blog, I planned on explaining how to rid yourself of pain and prevent new pain to crowd in on your life.

I have spent forty years studying and researching how to heal or remove emotional scars. Somewhere along the way, I discovered how to unlock the mysteries and heal. The best part of it is what I learned is permanent. This has started a frenzy with others who want help.

The most interesting part of doing the three-hour seminar was that I learned how much knowledge I had collected over the past forty years. I expected in the three hours to expel all that I knew. Instead, I found myself lightly skimmed over the surface. When I went home from the first seminar, I wrote an outline of what I knew on each subject. The outline was single spaced and I had nine pages worth of material that I could expound on.

People are asking me for longer seminars. So I put together a short survey to learn what people want to learn. Then I’ll put the basic questions in a twelve to seventeen hour seminar. Please take the survey and tell me how you feel. Besides the survey, I would like you to leave comments on my blog, telling me how you would feel about being a part of a seminar on ridding yourself of emotional pain and live with passion.

Tell me if there was a way to erase tragedy in your life, what would it be worth to you? Please leave me a comment below and let me know how you feel. If you want to learn how my seminars are developing, you can sign up for an email update. Thank you for your time. You can go to the seminar at the top of the page. 

Depression can be complicated because it can have so many facets and triggers. In this series of articles, I’m going to attempt to break them down. This article is going to cover how we perceive what is happening around us.

Our perceptions of life are based on our thoughts. If you have negative thoughts, you see nothing but negative perceptions. Some can say “Hi” to us and we can take it as “What do they want?” We interrupt their words totally wrong, if we are embracing the negative side of life.

Love has a lot to do with our thoughts. Let me start by saying, love and hate are at the feeling and it is attacked to every thought. You might be wondering why love or hate is at the base of every thought? Our spirits come into the world fill with love. So every thought is anchored with the emotion. Somewhere, we choice to deplete our love and hate replaced it.

When we allow others to deplete our love, we can start deep a road of depression. With us being on this road, we see the negative side of everything and decide there is no beauty. If we can’t say something nice about someone, it means, we could be on this destructive path of depression. We could be depressed and not know it.

For an example, I found intermingled with depression was anger. We are usually anger about something. Anger is dangerous to hang onto. When you find your self thinking “this angers me,” you need to move quickly through it and let it go. Some of us chose to hold onto our anger and it can do some serious damage to our body. I can tell some story about it but I’ll talk about it in another article.

We need to let go of our negative thoughts. Another example, we have proven with plants how negative and positive words can affect them. If a plant gets exposed to a contact diet of words of hate. They will grow away from the source or they die. So what are we doing to your self? Depression is the by-product of negative thoughts. Hate and anger can sometimes hold us in this state of depression. You might be in complete control of your depression and maybe not. The maybe not, I want to walk about next.

Some people tell me that they find it hard to think of something positive. Others have expressed to me that they feel depressed about something. They can’t see it or have any knowledge to why they should feel this sad heaviness that is always there. Lately, I’ve heard a lot of people express that they have learned that depression runs in their family. So now how can this happen?

Scientists have proven lately that thoughts and feeling can be passed on from one generation to another. I can explain how this happens scientifically but I won’t go into it now. Right now, you need to know it happens and you need to make a decision on how you’re going to handle it.

So how do you identify if what you are feeling is your thoughts or ancestors? If you’re feeling negative feeling like a heaviness, loneness, and etc, it could easily be an ancestral thought. Especially, if you try to change it and you find yourself frustrated because you struggle to see anything-new happening. You might be able to will a new decision for a while but if you relax for a moment. It is right back there.

When this happens, it can be very frustrating. You feel like you are hitting your head up against a wall, trying to function. You can’t push it away and ignore it. This is a painful depression because you feel helpful to rid yourself of it. When this happens to you, we as humans tend to blame ourselves for your life not going the way we want. It might not be your fault.

If it’s ancestral, you can break the anchor and I’ve learned how to permanently heal the ancestral decision. To give you an example, let me tell you about a man, I happened to be in a class with. When we got onto this subject, he mentioned that he had a problem with hating his in-laws. He explained that he had never experienced anything negative with them but he felt anger and hatred towards any of his date’s parents. Yet, he was quite emotional expressing that he deeply loved his present in-laws. He emphatically expressed they had done nothing to him but show him kindness. So why did he feel this way?

The teacher asked his mind to research out the reason why? In his mind, he shortly saw his great grandfather standing on a porch of his fiancé’ house with a dingy single light. They wouldn’t allow him to see their daughter because they weren’t going to allow her to marry him. They felt he was the right person for her. He made the decision to hate in-laws. Since it was a decision made with a lot of emotions of hate and anger. It affected his progenitors. The decision attacked to his DNA and was passed on his grandson.

Once he had identified the problem, the teacher showed him how to reverse the moment with his great grandfather and permanently erase that memory from being apart of him. He walked out of the class never feeling that emotion again. When our ancestors chose not to forgive someone for their imperfections, their decision can be pass on to you and it can leave you confused and frustrated because you have no idea why you feel this way.

Next time, we’ll talk about more negative decisions that you can control and they cause depression.

Lately, we had the manufacturers of outdoor equipment hold a show in our city. They paid for a poll that the news reported on. The poll asked teenagers across the nation what outdoor equipment they liked or were interested in the most. The outdoor equipment folks were shocked by the answers to their questions, which caused our local news to report it.

Teenagers weren’t interested in anything that had to do with outdoors. They would rather watch other people enjoy it on the Internet. This is helpful since Yellowstone just put “Old Faithful” on the Internet. You can see eruptions from your computer. Since, I’ve seen “Old Faithful” erupt in person numerous times. The mist on your face and feeling the power of the geyser really adds to the experience.

My next story is dedicated to those people who would rather enjoy the outdoors on the Internet. Since, we all know that breathing deeply releases stress from our bodies. I request you take some deep breaths now and during the story. So you can benefit from the exercise and adventure that I’m about to tell you.

This story takes place on a twenty-eight thousand acre island that sits in the middle of the Great Salt Lake. The largest salt-water lake in the world and it’s only thirty minutes from downtown Salt Lake City. Our mountains are close by, you can reach them from fifteen to thirty minutes from downtown. The time depends on where you are going.

On Antelope Island, you can bike, camp, hike or do my favorite, horseback riding. We share the island with approx. 550-700 bison or buffalo, as I like to call them. When you are on the trails, you can see coyotes, mule deer, prong horned antelope, bobcats , badgers, porcupines and jack rabbits. The animals I see the most are buffalo and jackrabbits. Winter, late fall and early spring is the best time to ride on the island. The summers are too hot and we would rather ride in the mountains where it is cool.

What I like about the island, there is no civilization on it. You feel like you are back in the old west. There is one bird species on the island that I dearly love. The meadowlark is there abundantly. In the spring, you can hear them all around you singing back and forth to each other. They are my favorite songbird.

One day, my husband and our neighbor were riding horses on the island. They were following the trails like they were requested to do. This day, the trail they were on went along the edge of the shores. The water was still and blue. Then the trail left the shores and headed up the side of a tall hill. They were reaching the top when they encountered a lone buffalo bull all by himself.

As they passed him, my husband pulled out his camera to take a picture. Before he could take it, the bull charged them. Somehow, he held onto the camera but lost his cowboy hat.  His horse, Socks,  bolted down the path with our neighbor following him. They hadn’t gone far when the bull stopped chasing them. Our neighbor had been riding on the island for ten years and he had never had a buffalo bother him. So he decided to go back for my husband’s hat.

When he reached the hat, Jay got off his horse and picked it up. The bull decided that he wanted the hat. He charged them. Jay jumped on his horse with the hat and off at a full gallop. Touchy, his horse, was fast. It became a race and the bull was gaining. Now, we understand why our ancestors wrote in their journals that it was dangerous to hunt them. They can ran fast or faster than a horse.

They have a strange shape and you wouldn’t think they could move fast because of it. It didn’t take the bull long to have his head in the tail of Jay’s horse. Before he rammed his horse, the bull just stopped.

What a memorable ride. I hope you were breathing deeply so you get the advantages of the exercise and relieve some stress. It’s great to get out and take a deep breath of fresh air. it really has a great affect on us.

The next time, you need to relax and you can’t go on a ride, hike, or walk. Close your eyes and take in a deep breath. It will relieve stress and it might help you get through the day a little healthier and easier. Have a great day!

I’ve had a goal for a year to get started with blogging. It seems like something always get in the way. With a new year, I’m going to blog and get to know you all.

For me, I’m use to teaching. I can see with blogging. You need to just talk. If I’m going to share myself, then I need to start at the beginning. People seem to find it interesting. It’s a surprised to me because I think my life is boring.

I was abandoned at the age of four being told no one wanted my two siblings or me. My life mirrored the words of my father. I raised myself. My sibling and I were spilt up and really didn’t get to see each other. No one stepped in on our lives, inviting us to be permanently apart of their family.

As a child, I want into a deep spiritual depression at the young age of eight. It’s an interesting story on how I worked my way out. If I was old enough to understand suicide, I think I would have done it.

Today, I’m not a just a survivor of a serious bad situation. This is important for you to know. I’m a conqueror. I dearly love my past. It taught me lessons about life that I now share with others. People are changing their lives.

I’m an author of numerous books and I teach seminars on how to deal with disappointments and rebuild shattered dreams. Disappoints are very important aspect of your life. They make up of who you are. So often, we wear them on our sleeve as a badge of pain. This is why I can’t have a wonderful life. This happened to me.

Do you find yourself doing something that isn’t really what you want to do? How often have you tried to change it only to have it unmovable? Or you will the behavior to change only to have it come back when you relax. It is possible to change anything about your life with ease when you know how to do it?

I’ve learned we easily can and do program our minds. Is your mind working against or for you? I have so many subjects that I could talk about it. I’m not sure where to begin.

Ask me what it is that you keep hitting up against a wall and you just seem like you can’t get through it. Tell me what it is and I can tell you how to understand what is happening to you. Maybe, you can understand how to change your life?

So many times, I think we have a tenancy to blame ourselves for getting into an unpleasant situation. When it happens, we put up our guards or walls determined to not let it happen again. After we set ourselves behind our protective walls, we vigilantly watch for it to happen again. This time, we won’t be surprised because we are expecting it. Do our walls protect us or are we setting it up to happen repeatedly?

How many times have we built these walls? Not knowing, it is a perfect recipe for experiencing the situation over and over again. We attract to us the kind of people who can hurt us all because our unconscious mind is focused on what we do not want. So we relive the same negative emotions on a daily bases behind our walls. As a Man Thinkth so is He is one of truest words that have ever been stated.

Our lives are a mirror of our thoughts. The feeling of fear and shock that we were hurt tell us. We are thinking about it daily on a subconscious level. Do you know how to let go of a painful past experience? There are several things you can do. One of my favorite is to go to the origin of the first time, I experienced the painful moment

Mentally, I picture my younger self. I tell myself that I’m from the future and I want my younger self to know that they will be okay. It helps to put your arms around the younger self, telling them that you love them. Tell yourself, it’s okay that they brought pain into your life and you forgive them. You came back to tell them that they will be okay and it necessary to hide behind walls. This will melt the shock of the painful moment.

Our unconscious minds are very eager to please us and it thinks by building a wall around you. It is helping. What it does is hurt us more. We become frozen in this moment of pain and fear. Everyday are lives are being filtered through that moment. Is this really what you want?

You have probably have heard the saying, “There are two thing that you can always count on. It is death and taxes. I want to add a third element that haunts our steps. It is fear and everyone has felt it at least once in our lives. Fear can stop us from having happiness and becoming who we want to be in this life.

There are many books on the subject. If you have read a book on the subject, you should be able to handle it perfectly. Can you? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to read a book and presto, you have changed your life. The truth we have to choose to implement the principles into our lives.

Choice is a governing principle of the universe and we are bound to it. You had to choose to take you first breath and you have to choose to implement the techniques that you read in a book. I have read over two hundred books on self-help. If you want the success from what you read, you have to choice to implement them into your life.

Fear is an emotion and it is a action word. What I mean about fear being an action word. You have to take an action with fear. When you feel it, you will hide, fight or flight. Sometimes, we experience shock at the same time we feel fear. If this has happened to you, then you have added another problem.

As a little girl, my oldest brother thought it was funny to take me and through me up into the air. He would say, he wanted to see if I could hit the ceiling. The ceilings were ten feet in height. It would have impossible for me to actually hit it.

A two year old doesn’t understand that concept. Every time, he threw me up. I would scream and cry. With each toss, I held my breath. I was experiencing shock and fear at the same time, so they became attacked to it each other.

In the future, my mind brought up the shock every time I would even stand on a chair. I relieved the fear of being tossed up into the air. It would cause me to be consumed with fear. I relived everything right down to me holding my breath. If I stayed on the chair for too long, I would pass out from not breathing.

When we feel fear, we all hope that it will go away with time. I would have gone to my grave being afraid of any height without me doing something about it. I learned how to go back and release my mind from that frozen moment of being afraid.

I learned how to reprogram my mind to release any memory of being afraid. It has improved my life greatly. Sooner or later, we have to deal with fear or we spend the rest of our life avoiding or medicating our fears. Fear keeps us from growing and it will steal our dreams. You might want to deny what I said but down deep. You know it is true.

How did I get rid of my fear? The first rule of dealing with fear, you have to acknowledge you are afraid and it is okay. Sometime, we are embarrassed to admit that we are afraid to do something. It might make us appear weak.

Somewhere along the way, we promised ourselves that we would always be strong. Weakness was not acceptable. Once you have acknowledge it. You need to look at it. Why does this stop me cold?

You need to look at your fear from all angles so you can understand it. For me, when I asked me mind to back to the first time I felt paralyzing fear. It took me to my brother. I found embracing the moment with love and forgiveness removed the mind from the shock of feeling it. Love is a very healing emotion and you need to give it to yourself daily.

I sent love to myself until I felt the fear drifting out the window that my brother was standing next too. When the fear disappeared out the window, it left me. I sent it away through the window by choosing to let it go.

I knew it had left because I became consumed with a peaceful feeling. It is okay to feel fear. It becomes a problem when you do not allow it to leave you. Sometimes, we make the mistake of holding on it, thinking it is our duty. You can feel the fear and then you need to let it float through you. I hope this helps you. It works for me.

If you want more information, you read it in the book “Hot to Rebuild Shattered Dreams.” I also have a young adult series called “Stones Quest.” It’s a Sci-Fi/Fantasy series. The people are just like you but their technology is completely different. Along with their education, lifestyle and adventure, it is a fun, fast paced adventures read.