On our local news the other night, they gave the national and local statistics on depression and suicides. It was disturbing to hear how high the numbers were. The numbers, I assume were based on people receiving help or those who have already committed or attempted suicide. What about the ones who are in denial or sitting on the edge?

It bothered me because I have been at both ends of the spectrum. As a child, I was very depressed and it was comfortable to be there. So what changed and how did I work myself out of this dark place. First, you need to know what caused the depression if you want to come out. For me, it happened at the age of four. My mother died and our father walked out on us. This experience plunged me into deep waters for survival.

Luckily, I was too young to understand how to end my life. My mother had taught me to pray before she left. Each night, I prayed for God to end my life. While other children were praying for a bike or something new. I wanted to stop breathing. The pain was too much for me, and I went deeper into depression every time I woke up.

So what happened? How did I come from such a dark beginning to a bright and wonderful life leaving all scars behind me? I did it without medication so I know exactly what steps I took. For the record, there isn’t a magic bullet. You can take steps to prevent yourself from getting in this state and keeping yourself out. Once, you get help.

I want to share what I did in hopes you find something helpful. The turning point in my life came unexpected and it showed me how scarred I was. I was an adult and my negative thought patterns were deeply entranced in my mind. In my book, How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams, I go into detail on how I got into this depression and how I came out. So here, I’m going to only give a highlight. If you want more information, there is always the book.

If you had asked me about depression years ago, I would’ve answered that I had never felt it. I wasn’t lying. What I’m saying is, I had never felt joy so I did not know the difference. How do you understand light, if you had never seen it?

This is what I discovered and I plan on covering it in the next four-blog articles. The plan is to break it down into small bits so you can see something useful to ingrain into your life. We are in denial not because we want to be. We are there because we do not know better or we’re afraid the truth might be unmanageable.

Before you can help yourself, you need to see where you truly are. This can be very frightening. At least, it was for me. Years ago, we had a son from his birth who always seemed angry. He had a big chip on his shoulder.

After weeks of trying different ideas, my husband, Jack came up an idea of taking our son to a mirror and not letting him leave until he had told himself twenty-five times that he loved Josh. After the first week, our son started to change.

For the next few paragraphs, I’m taking excerpts from my book.

In my amazement, Josh started to change. He became happier. One day, Jack invited me to see Josh repeat his words, I love Josh, twenty-five times. Grinning, Josh passed by as Jack smiled at me. Reaching a hand out to me, he asked, “Can you do it?”

Fear consumed me as I attempted to follow Josh. I said, “Sure, anyone can do that. It’s easy.” Before I could leave the doorway, Jack had a hold of my wrists and yanked me into the room. Leaving me in front of the mirror, he stood in the doorway and said, “You do it.”

As I stared at myself, I became even more afraid. The fear became so strong that I felt like Jack had just shoved me into a cage with a hungry tiger. I felt trapped, fear charging throughout every cell of my body. I looked at Jack with my face as white as a ghost. Not giving him notice, I charged him, expecting him to move.

He didn’t and I was so afraid. Not realizing what I was doing, I stepped on his thigh, attempting to climb over him. Jack grabbed a hold and pulled me down. With his arms wrapped around me, he easily brought me back in front of the mirror and repeated his words.

Seeing myself in the mirror, I fought to get away from his grip. Being only ninety-eight pounds, it was easy for Jack to hold me. He repeated his words and I pleaded with him to let me go. When he said no, I felt the invisible arms join him.

Being so familiar with Him, I pleaded with Him to help me get away from Jack. Instantly, I knew HE was was on Jack’s side as well. Looking at myself, I started to cry from the depths of my soul. By doing it, I saw in mind all the layer of shock that I had endured at the hands of others. For the first time, my soul felt the love from the invisible arms.

After being in Jack’s and my creator’s arms, I couldn’t get the vision of all the layers of scars out of my mind. What were they made from? How would i see them now for the first time? I had so many questions, not realizing what was being opened up to me. Hope was being breathed into my life, my soul, and my heart for the first time. It was a chance to rid myself of the pain I had endured for so many years. It started to consume me.

You have to see and embrace the fact you are depressed before you can change anything and get help. Next time, I want to talk about how to recognize the thought patterns that take you down the path towards depression. If you understand how to get there, you will know how to bring yourself back. Sign up for a update at the site www.Rebuild-Shattered-Dreams.com for the next installment.

It is crucial for you to feel successful everyday, if you want to be healthy physically, mentally, and emotionally. You need it to be able to perceive your life correctly. The feeling of success will help you sustain you even when you are having a bad hair day. If you are like me, you’re probably wondering why? Why is it so important to feel the success down deep when I wasn’t sure what it was in the beginning. How do you measure success?

Your mind is alway working. At least if you are a woman, you’re mind is always thinking about something. If it is true that our minds attract to our lives, what we focus on. This is is important. Some people tell me that they don’t believe our minds can bring into our lives what we think about. I want to tell you, it is very true.

We bring into our lives really how we feel. Your feeling are nothing more than what you believe. We attract people that match our programming. If you want to be negative, nothing is more irritating than being around a positive person and visa versa.

How do you instill the feeling of success deep inside of you? First, it has nothing to do with your job or what you own. This isn’t the kind of success that I’m talking about. Things are only a illusion of success and you will never be satisfied. You need to create the feelings and thoughts first. So you can attract success and bring it into your life. So how do you program your mind to attract success?

First, you need to ask yourself. What is my definition of success? I’ve heard some people say, when I make a certain amount of money or when I buy a particular item. When my kids are all grown up and successful. We have heard numerous definitions of people’s concept of what success should feel like.

Most people’s meaning of success is like the horizon. I wrote about in my last article. Can you ever really touch the horizon? So they go through life never feeling succesful yet, they could be a multi millionaire. If you aren’t feeling successful everyday, then it means you do not understand how to program your mind to accept success.

If this is you, I suggest you change it now. I read one man’s definition of success and it was perfect. You need to have your definition of success so you can easily feel it everyday. This was his, “I feel success today because I’m above ground.” So every morning, he wakes up and he feels successful.

He inspired me to change mine to something that meant a lot to me. It is: I feel success when I learn something new. It is anything that I didn’t know a few moments ago. I can’t tell you how it changed my life. Try it! You might like it. It feel great to have that feeling of success always with you.

I’ve had a goal for a year to get started with blogging. It seems like something always get in the way. With a new year, I’m going to blog and get to know you all.

For me, I’m use to teaching. I can see with blogging. You need to just talk. If I’m going to share myself, then I need to start at the beginning. People seem to find it interesting. It’s a surprised to me because I think my life is boring.

I was abandoned at the age of four being told no one wanted my two siblings or me. My life mirrored the words of my father. I raised myself. My sibling and I were spilt up and really didn’t get to see each other. No one stepped in on our lives, inviting us to be permanently apart of their family.

As a child, I want into a deep spiritual depression at the young age of eight. It’s an interesting story on how I worked my way out. If I was old enough to understand suicide, I think I would have done it.

Today, I’m not a just a survivor of a serious bad situation. This is important for you to know. I’m a conqueror. I dearly love my past. It taught me lessons about life that I now share with others. People are changing their lives.

I’m an author of numerous books and I teach seminars on how to deal with disappointments and rebuild shattered dreams. Disappoints are very important aspect of your life. They make up of who you are. So often, we wear them on our sleeve as a badge of pain. This is why I can’t have a wonderful life. This happened to me.

Do you find yourself doing something that isn’t really what you want to do? How often have you tried to change it only to have it unmovable? Or you will the behavior to change only to have it come back when you relax. It is possible to change anything about your life with ease when you know how to do it?

I’ve learned we easily can and do program our minds. Is your mind working against or for you? I have so many subjects that I could talk about it. I’m not sure where to begin.

Ask me what it is that you keep hitting up against a wall and you just seem like you can’t get through it. Tell me what it is and I can tell you how to understand what is happening to you. Maybe, you can understand how to change your life?

So many times, I think we have a tenancy to blame ourselves for getting into an unpleasant situation. When it happens, we put up our guards or walls determined to not let it happen again. After we set ourselves behind our protective walls, we vigilantly watch for it to happen again. This time, we won’t be surprised because we are expecting it. Do our walls protect us or are we setting it up to happen repeatedly?

How many times have we built these walls? Not knowing, it is a perfect recipe for experiencing the situation over and over again. We attract to us the kind of people who can hurt us all because our unconscious mind is focused on what we do not want. So we relive the same negative emotions on a daily bases behind our walls. As a Man Thinkth so is He is one of truest words that have ever been stated.

Our lives are a mirror of our thoughts. The feeling of fear and shock that we were hurt tell us. We are thinking about it daily on a subconscious level. Do you know how to let go of a painful past experience? There are several things you can do. One of my favorite is to go to the origin of the first time, I experienced the painful moment

Mentally, I picture my younger self. I tell myself that I’m from the future and I want my younger self to know that they will be okay. It helps to put your arms around the younger self, telling them that you love them. Tell yourself, it’s okay that they brought pain into your life and you forgive them. You came back to tell them that they will be okay and it necessary to hide behind walls. This will melt the shock of the painful moment.

Our unconscious minds are very eager to please us and it thinks by building a wall around you. It is helping. What it does is hurt us more. We become frozen in this moment of pain and fear. Everyday are lives are being filtered through that moment. Is this really what you want?