Many years ago, people worked hard with their hands to build something, or to plant a field to take care of their families.

Today, our job market has changed. Most of us have found that the weight of our job has to do with our mind and not our bronze. Computers have changed so much for us for good and bad. Maybe, it was healthy for us to use our bronze more. In the process, life has changed our perception of success and how to achieve it.

Many of us have chosen to measure our success by how many things we own or the brand of products we perceive mean success. Is that really success? Or is our perception of success a facade that leaves us with an empty feeling? If you have a strong sense of what success is to you, don’t read on. You already know. If you are questioning or searching, I have a short story for you.

Someone told me a story and I would like to give the credit to someone, but I can’t remember where I heard this story.

A man wanted success and decided to learn how others perceived success. So he interviewed others and received a wide range of opinions. Nothing seemed to be consistent. Everyone had a different view of what success meant to them.

Finally, he shyly approached the man who seemed to have it all. The man had houses, cars, travel, and a family. He wanted to know what he thought about success. He was shocked to hear the man who seemed to have it all say that he did not see himself as being successful.

He answered, “I have never experienced success. I’m still trying to achieve it.”

“What would it take to feel successful?”

“Right now, I make about $400,000 a year. If I could make $500,000, then I would feel successful.”

“Do you feel like you are happy with your life?” I asked.

“No. I can’t be happy until I reach my goal.”

Soon after, he met a man who seemed very happy. He couldn’t stop smiling. When he asked him how he viewed success. The man answered, “If I wake up and I’m above ground, then I’m successful.”

Our minds need to answer that question and many more. So how does our mind find it’s answers? I would like to give you an example. My sister gave me permission to tell you this story.

She happened to be going through a very stressful situation. We were talking, when out of the blue, she asked me. “Do you eat when you are in a stressful situation?”

“No. I will do the opposite.”

“Then why do I want to eat when I’m so stressed? I can’t seem to stop it?”

I answered, “If you want to change it, you can do it.”

She immediately agreed. So I started to talk to her subconscious mind. Suddenly, she saw herself as a one-month-old baby at a time of great stress for her. She was tired of waiting to be feed. When our mother did feed her, she told herself that ‘she liked it.’ The mind is very powerful. She did not realize that she had just programmed her mind to crave food when she was stressed.

We replaced or reprogrammed the mind to handle stress in a different way.

Now, you know that we start to program our minds while we are in diapers. It happens, when we think that ‘we like this.’ When we do it with emotion, our minds will not budge.

Every time, we have had a new experience in our lives and our emotions were involved with it, we made decisions that control our future. Now, we are adults. Sometime, we find unexplained caving, desires and situation that we can’t explain. It is because our unconscious mind is not paying attention to our thoughts today. Instead, our mind is running off of our first decision to handle a situation. Have you found it hard to break a habit?

When you know how the mind works, you can change and permanently remove the habit very quickly. After I learned how to reprogram my mind, I discovered talents that I never knew I had. It was great to stop being afraid of heights. Now, I can enjoy a beautiful view.

I wrote my book, “How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams” so I could share with others what I learned. In the past, I was terrified of the unknown. Now, I grin and walk into the unknown in peace. My fear is gone because I have skills to handle any situation.

What do you want to change? Leave me a comment and tell me, then I will tell you if it’s possible. You don’t even have to use your real name. No one will know who you are. If you want more information on how to buy my book. “How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams.”  Go to www.LaReneEllis.com . for an autographed copy. Amazon carry it too..

Do you like to make New Year resolutions? At the beginning of every year, we all make or we talk about making ‘New Year resolutions.’ How many of us achieve our goals? Over the years, I’ve only met a handful of people who are pleased with their results at the end of the year. Most of us have forgotten what goals we set. We have lost interest early in the year or we decided they were too hard and we quit.
Why do some goals appear to be so hard to achieve? It could because the goal will require change and some of us don’t like change. Some of the time, change is a unknown factor and we aren’t sure if can handle it. If you find yourself afraid of the unknown, it is usually because we are afraid on how to handle it. What happens if something is something that I’ve never experienced before? Can I handle it? Will it be something that will hurt me?
If this is you, I suggest you might want to change your perspective regarding change. This is my favorite quote and it’s by Sir Winston Churchill. He said, “To improve is to change. To be perfect is to change often.”
Change can be wonderful, I choose to change a lot and it has brought me some wonderful rewards. The quote sat on my desk for quite awhile. Every time, I wanted to accomplish a goal. I usually saw that I would have to change something and do it different to achieve my goal. The quote reminded it was okay and everything would fine.
In my new book, ‘How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams’, I talk about how wonderful change can be in your life and how it can bless you. There is an art to change. If it is approached right, you can have change be wonderful. You need to do it with the right attitude or it will not be a good experience.
Remember, you can have everything taken away in this life. If you approach it right with the right attitude. You can rebuild a life that is stronger and far more vibrant then what was taken away. Please feel free to comment. Next time, I’m going to talk about any of these subjects below:
• Constants Fears
• Stress
• Unhappiness
• Abandonment – Finding Yourself Alone in Life
• Self Imposing Limits
• Change Core Beliefs
• Depression
• Fatigue
• Anxiety
• Anger
• Grief
• Guilt
• Negative Emotions
• Anxiety over Something that Might Happen in the Future
• Phobic Responses
• Inner Conflicts
• Learned how to stretch your mind. You have to conceive before you can achieve
• Trauma
• Self-Worth
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