The book at your left is the reason for this site! It has a strange title. What does Rebuild Shattered Dreams mean to you? It is an easy read as the book goes through someones dreams for happiness and security. You will  witness their life become shattered. Then the story takes you through the steps it takes to rebuild something that you thought was lost for good.

The author learned at a young age that you will be very disappointed if you wait for someone else to give you what you truly need from life. TO SURVIVE THIS LIFE YOU MUST LEARN TO GIVE YOURSELF WHAT YOU TRULY NEED. It can be disappointing to expect your needs to come from someone else.  The book will teach you how to use your own personal power.

Here is a list of things that the book will teach you to do. 

• A true down deep love for yourself - You can only feel someones loves according to how much you love yourself.
• How to permanently remove trauma and disappointments  that has come into your life
• How to find peace and reduce stress from your life.
  
• Discover who you really are
• Permanently change unwanted habits that seem to block your happiness like:
• How did I become addicted – You can become addicted to any emotion. If you understand how you got there, it will make it easier to change.
• How do I stop self sabotaging yourself.
• How to use  your thoughts to bring good things into your life.
• You will learn where your thoughts come from and how to attack the thoughts you want.
• You will learn how to discover a decision that you made as a child and change it. Your mind will always go to the first decision you made on a given subject. How much did you understand about the ramification of your decision, when you were a child? Yet your mind is still running off of that programing.

Order your own copy here for $14.98 in paperback and receive an autographed copy.    Of course, Amazon has the book but it will not be autographed.

A friend sent me the words below. They are from the movie:,The Curious Case of Benjamin Button:

“For what it’s worth, it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit; stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same; there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.”

If you haven’t purchased a copy, click here for an autographed copy today. You can also purchase it from Amazon.

I couldn't find a bowl of cherries that I liked.

Cancer is a life-altering experience. It’s a wonderful time to reflect on your life. Most of us will ask the questions like: What have I done with my life? What would I do differently, if I could do it over again? Is there more I want to accomplish? With life being so fragile, we start to look at the future differently. What do I want to do with the time I have left?
The questions above, we will usually ask ourselves, plus the question, why me? I left it out because it is the most negative thought you can have. When we are in timeout, we really need to think about our successes. Timeout is an expression that I use whenever I find myself sick or hurt and I can’t do a lot physically. During these moments, we get the opportunity to reflect on our lives.
I’ve been in timeout for four months and I’m appreciative of it. Before cancer, I was helping others with erasing past issues that they couldn’t get rid of on their own. Now, I can’t reach out to them. I miss it deeply. In the past, people would come in and leave with a smile on their face. At that instant, they weren’t sure if I had helped. They just knew that they felt differently. So I never truly saw how it affected their daily lives. With me being unable to help others, they are telling me how helpful I had been. They’re waiting for me to get better because they have other areas that they want help with.
We all have an impact on each other that we usually do not realize. The movie It’s a Wonderful Life with Jimmy Stewart is a perfect example. We can positively and negatively impact others. It’s a choice that we all make. The question you need to ask yourself: Am I like Mr. Potter who wants to control and take what he can without giving back? Taking every opportunity to twist it to my benefit?
Or are we the kind of person that Jimmy Stewart is like? A person with a caring heart, being patient and long suffering for the benefit of others. If you’re a good parent, you’ll feel this way. What about others around you?  What do they need, and have you seen it or ignored them?
Being stopped from really being around people gave me a new perspective on how we impact each other and ourselves. I’m grateful for the opportunity to witness it. Helping people is an art that many of us lose in the day-to-day world. So what makes it an art? There are questions that we need to be asking ourselves. What is our motivation in helping someone? Do we do it without expecting anything back? Do we do it for the praise of others? The person who does it without expecting anything back is the person who will find the most pleasure from giving to others.
With the economy going down, there are a lot of opportunities to reach out. Even if you are a person in need, I suggest you find someone who needs more help than you do. It’s in the true giving that you will find your pain eased and what you need. It might not come in the same hour, but it will come. If you have the attitude of gratefulness, it will come back bigger than you imagined.
When we truly give to others, it eases our pain, bringing great joy to our hearts. If you’re emotionally hurting, it’s the best painkiller you can take. Today, I have for the first time people all around me reaching out to lift my burden. I feel their prayers and the joy in their eyes to see they are helping me. It’s a different experience to see it from the person who needs help.
This is a scripture from the Bible that I like. It says: “Heal the sick, cleanse the lepers, raise the dead, cast out devils: freely ye have received, freely give.” Matt. 10:8. It’s the giving freely that brings the joy into our lives. It’s also important that we realize the areas that have been given to us. In other words, count how many things are good and right in your life and focus on them. What have you been given? So many times we forget and just focus on what we don’t have.
Sometimes, we feel like we have nothing to give. You need to fill your cup. This is one of the best ways to fill it: Visualize putting your arms around yourself. Sometimes, you need to hold yourself until you feel peace in your heart. Remember, you need to put your arms around yourself when you feel lonely, frustrated, or angry. It helps to melt away the negativity and bring you back to the positive emotions. When you are plugged into the positive, you will bring many wonderful experiences and opportunities into your life. You should never forget it.

If you want more information, you might want to purchase my book.

I really want to know what you all think. Is the Internet the best place to hold a seminar? Is Google a good place to advertise for it? Would you rather hear about it from a news outlet? Does the Internet really work or is there a better form of media?

I dearly want to know what you think about these questions. Would you take a short survey and answer them? Before you do, let me tell you why I’m asking for your opinion. When I was four, I used to be so very happy. Then one day, someone came to the house and told us that our mother was dead. My father left the family, saying that no one wanted us. Shortly thereafter, I was split up from my siblings.

At the age of five, I fell into a deep depression, praying every time I went to bed that I would stop breathing. I wanted to leave this world. The Savior brought miracles in my life that kept me alive.

In the bible, it says all things are possible through Him. As an adult, I was in a safe, loving environment. Yet every morning, I woke up in fear. It never seemed to want to leave me.

I desired to be free of this prison. I didn’t trust people and I was so hurt from being betrayed. The word family was a bitter word to me. I had so much pain associated with it. It was hard for me to feel comfortable with my husband’s family because I didn’t trust people.

In my twenties, something happened that changed my life forever. For a split moment, as I felt the Savior’s arms around me, I saw the scars of emotional abuse that was inside of me. For that split moment, I felt His love for me. My spirit was so starved for love. I couldn’t feel anyone’s love because I had so many deep emotional scars.

After that moment, I became obsessed to learn how to remove the damage. I knew in my heart it was possible. I’m here today to say I have achieved my goal.

I do not wake up in the morning feeling blind fear. It took me until I was a first-time grandmother to do it. The reason it took me so long is because when I found something that worked, I wanted to know why it worked. What laws governed it that made it work? After I learned the laws, I watched it in other people’s lives. When I saw they received the same results, I knew I had found a true principle.

After ten years of being free, I became tired of watching strangers suffer. What I learned wasn’t something that I could explain in just a few moments, so I decided to write books on the subject. People were so taken by the possibilities that they have asked me to teach seminars.

Locally, I did. They wanted more information and I had it. I was so taken by how much I had learned over the years. I have a powerful testimony of prayer. It helped me to learn.

Today, I can permanently remove the scars from someone else’s life, even when they are victims of violent crimes. I had a lady come to me regarding a family member. They were terrified of being in a room with closed doors.

When they went to church, they had to sit next to the door with their hand on it. Something terrifying happened to them as a child and this blind fear wasn’t going away with age.

After spending an hour with me, the fear is permanently gone. They are free to enjoy life and not deal with ghosts from the past. I’m so grateful for my past, because it allowed me to free others from a prison of pain and fear. This is why I’m asking these questions. People who know me and those I have worked with want a seminar. I thought it might be great to have it online. Do you think it would work? Would you please take a survey? Click here.

People are starting to know me as a novelist. I’m surprised to learn how many people want or are trying to become an author of books. It surprises me because it wasn’t my goal to be an author. Before I wrote my first novel, I never ever thought about writing. Instead, I went to great lengths to avoid it.

From what I hear from other authors, I think my story is unique. Most people, I’ve spoken too thought about writing their story a lot. They planned out what they were going to write, the genre, and the outline of how the story unfolded. For me, my story is different. I accidentally discovered a story that was inside of me. Then I couldn’t’ stop it from coming out.

I’ve found people fascinated with this story on how I became an author, So I decided to write about it on my blog, rebuild shattered dreams. Maybe it might inspire someone to discover a hidden talent that they might have been buried deep inside, like me. Sometime, we have no idea what we can do until we have no choice but to walk through our fears and do it. This is what happened to me. I’m so grateful for the experience. It showed a side of me that I didn’t know existed.

Before I tell you my story, I need to point out one more thing. This is important to know. I found writing anything to be emotionally painful. In my book, “How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams,” I go into detail about why a simple note terrified me. Today, I’m going to tell something that I didn’t put in the book. How I was forced to face my fear of writing.

For five years of my life, I had been a real estate agent and enjoyed it. Finally at the end of my fourth year, I decided to get my real estate brokers license. After, I received it. I made the choice to go out on my own. For me, it was the smartest thing, I ever did. What happened next made it possible for me to deal with the changes that were about to take place in my life.

It was November 2000 and for the first time in my career, I had sold my entire inventory. It was strange to have no buyers either. In my area, November and December are traditionally our slowest months in real estate. Ever though, I have written and presented offers on Christmas Eve. This year, it was going to be different. I was tired and grateful to take a break.

Five days into my vacation, I had the most bizarre event take place in my life that has permanently changed my life. I woke up discovering that I couldn’t speak. My voice was gone. When I tried to force a whisper, it caused my lungs to go into long coughing spells. If I laughed, the coughing spells would appear. It sounded and felt like I was coughing up my lungs.

The problem didn’t make it easy for me to go out into public. I wasn’t sick. The doctors couldn’t find anything wrong with me. They just called it a virus assuring me that I would have to ride it out. Little did I know that it would take me ninety days for my voice to return and my lungs be able to take a deep breath again.

The winter was long and cold. We had little wind and storms in our area. When you live in the tops of mountains, you can easily get an inversion where the cold air is trapped to the floor of the valley. This happens when you have little wind or storms. Even if no one lives in the valley, it can happen. Our inversion spread from Provo, Utah to Pocatello, Idaho and it was thick.

I struggled to go outside and breath the air that winter. Never in my life had my lungs been a problem for me, so why was the winter of 2000 to 2001 different. My health problems trapped me inside a room in my home. I couldn’t be away from the humidifier or air purifiers without my lungs coughing to hard it could cause my bladder to have problems. They weren’t portable. So every morning, I picked a room and stayed there all day breathing fresh, moist air.

In November 2000, I did not have an email address and I don’t think I knew someone who did. Maybe, I did know someone. I just didn’t use them because I was terrified to write. I do know they weren’t as popular then as they are today. Either way, I had to write down my thoughts on a note pad if I wanted something. Remember, I told you earlier that I found writing emotionally painful and it terrified me.

This virus seemed to perfectly design to force me to face my fears. In the process, I discovered something very special regarding me. Those ninety days, I spent trapped in a room with a humidifier and air purifier has forever changed my life. It changed my career and how I view the world in away, I cannot ever go back…

This post is getting a little long. In my next post, I’ll tell you what happened, during those ninety days. My hope is it inspires you find something special about yourself. I’ll see you next time. Below are a couple of the books, I wrote because of this experience.

On our local news the other night, they gave the national and local statistics on depression and suicides. It was disturbing to hear how high the numbers were. The numbers, I assume were based on people receiving help or those who have already committed or attempted suicide. What about the ones who are in denial or sitting on the edge?

It bothered me because I have been at both ends of the spectrum. As a child, I was very depressed and it was comfortable to be there. So what changed and how did I work myself out of this dark place. First, you need to know what caused the depression if you want to come out. For me, it happened at the age of four. My mother died and our father walked out on us. This experience plunged me into deep waters for survival.

Luckily, I was too young to understand how to end my life. My mother had taught me to pray before she left. Each night, I prayed for God to end my life. While other children were praying for a bike or something new. I wanted to stop breathing. The pain was too much for me, and I went deeper into depression every time I woke up.

So what happened? How did I come from such a dark beginning to a bright and wonderful life leaving all scars behind me? I did it without medication so I know exactly what steps I took. For the record, there isn’t a magic bullet. You can take steps to prevent yourself from getting in this state and keeping yourself out. Once, you get help.

I want to share what I did in hopes you find something helpful. The turning point in my life came unexpected and it showed me how scarred I was. I was an adult and my negative thought patterns were deeply entranced in my mind. In my book, How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams, I go into detail on how I got into this depression and how I came out. So here, I’m going to only give a highlight. If you want more information, there is always the book.

If you had asked me about depression years ago, I would’ve answered that I had never felt it. I wasn’t lying. What I’m saying is, I had never felt joy so I did not know the difference. How do you understand light, if you had never seen it?

This is what I discovered and I plan on covering it in the next four-blog articles. The plan is to break it down into small bits so you can see something useful to ingrain into your life. We are in denial not because we want to be. We are there because we do not know better or we’re afraid the truth might be unmanageable.

Before you can help yourself, you need to see where you truly are. This can be very frightening. At least, it was for me. Years ago, we had a son from his birth who always seemed angry. He had a big chip on his shoulder.

After weeks of trying different ideas, my husband, Jack came up an idea of taking our son to a mirror and not letting him leave until he had told himself twenty-five times that he loved Josh. After the first week, our son started to change.

For the next few paragraphs, I’m taking excerpts from my book.

In my amazement, Josh started to change. He became happier. One day, Jack invited me to see Josh repeat his words, I love Josh, twenty-five times. Grinning, Josh passed by as Jack smiled at me. Reaching a hand out to me, he asked, “Can you do it?”

Fear consumed me as I attempted to follow Josh. I said, “Sure, anyone can do that. It’s easy.” Before I could leave the doorway, Jack had a hold of my wrists and yanked me into the room. Leaving me in front of the mirror, he stood in the doorway and said, “You do it.”

As I stared at myself, I became even more afraid. The fear became so strong that I felt like Jack had just shoved me into a cage with a hungry tiger. I felt trapped, fear charging throughout every cell of my body. I looked at Jack with my face as white as a ghost. Not giving him notice, I charged him, expecting him to move.

He didn’t and I was so afraid. Not realizing what I was doing, I stepped on his thigh, attempting to climb over him. Jack grabbed a hold and pulled me down. With his arms wrapped around me, he easily brought me back in front of the mirror and repeated his words.

Seeing myself in the mirror, I fought to get away from his grip. Being only ninety-eight pounds, it was easy for Jack to hold me. He repeated his words and I pleaded with him to let me go. When he said no, I felt the invisible arms join him.

Being so familiar with Him, I pleaded with Him to help me get away from Jack. Instantly, I knew HE was was on Jack’s side as well. Looking at myself, I started to cry from the depths of my soul. By doing it, I saw in mind all the layer of shock that I had endured at the hands of others. For the first time, my soul felt the love from the invisible arms.

After being in Jack’s and my creator’s arms, I couldn’t get the vision of all the layers of scars out of my mind. What were they made from? How would i see them now for the first time? I had so many questions, not realizing what was being opened up to me. Hope was being breathed into my life, my soul, and my heart for the first time. It was a chance to rid myself of the pain I had endured for so many years. It started to consume me.

You have to see and embrace the fact you are depressed before you can change anything and get help. Next time, I want to talk about how to recognize the thought patterns that take you down the path towards depression. If you understand how to get there, you will know how to bring yourself back. Sign up for a update at the site www.Rebuild-Shattered-Dreams.com for the next installment.

My fourth infusion was horrible. The rashes were extra  miserable with me getting shingles with it. My bowls ached and I experienced hemorrhoids for the first time in my life. My finger and toes felt like they had been smashed in a door. They gave me a shot for white blood count that increased my pain.

Years ago, I was into herbs. I used them all the time with my children to save on doctor costs. Over the years, I forgot about them since I never seemed to see a doctor because I was ill. With my problems, I decided to pull out my books and dust them off. When I looked up hemorrhoids, I had a lot of choices. One herb I had in the house and the code was still fresh. So I took two in the morning and two capsules at night. Ten days later, I found my bowls feel wonderful. I didn’t realize how bad I felt until I had something to compare them against.

After the ten days, I decided to keep taking one capsule in the morning and one at night to keep them from coming back. What happened surprised me. The herb removed more than the hemorrhoids. Even with my next three infusions of Taxotere, I had relief from:

• Hemorrhoids and my bowls feeling tender
• My hair stopped falling out. Instead, my hair on my head started to grow back.
• The dry skin sensation lessened
• The rashes and shingles never came back
• My nail started to grow with a healthy pink color. On my fifth infusion, my nails started to separate away from my fingers. The healthy pink grow keep on growing while I clipped the top. By the time, I received my seventh infusion of Taxotere. My nails had grown an health pink halfway up. My nails always had grown very past.

This wonderful herb was PSYLLIUM HUSKS. When I went to the store to buy another bottle, I was surprised at how many choices. I bought what I already had used. It worked! When I decided to share this experience with others, I decided to make it easy for you to find the one I used.

You can click here and it will take you to my secure shopping cart.

Let’s take the power of colors and add them to your life. I’m going to add more articles about how color affects us in our homes and on us personally when we wear certain colors. Right now, we are going to cover the last of Leslie Kane’s article before we move on to other information.

Adding Color to Your Life
When you use colors to evoke a particular mood, you must take into account not only your own color preferences but also your environment outside the home, says Walch of the Color Association. To provide a psychological boost, your home should represent a color “break” from the outside environment.

For example, because the brown landscape in the Southwest offers very little color, people living there tend to favor flaming orange, hot pink and other vibrant colors in their homes.

“I think most people are color-deprived,” Walch says. “People have real color needs, just as they have food needs. It is human and healthy to desire color change. If I live in a white space all day at work, I need a splash of color at home. But,” she warns, “the bolder the color statement, the more quickly you may tire of it. You may love the idea of a red kitchen, but you grow bored with the real thing.”

Remember, too, that colors exist within a cultural context. “We can’t ignore the strong, long-standing associations people make with colors,” Walch says. “Take brown. The dying grass is brown; school desks are brown. We think of brown as dreary and utilitarian. So I wouldn’t want to paint my walls brown.”

When selecting paint, wallpaper, carpeting or furniture, keep in mind that color is partly determined by the light in which is seen. A carpet sample that looks fresh green under the store’s cool white fluorescent lighting will appear hunter green under daylight fluorescents and olive green at home under incandescent light. So be sure to check your paint or carpet in the lighting in which it will live. That way you won’t end up being so angry that you see red.

That bit of advice is very good. You do need to see your colors in the environment. Using color to create moods in your home is fun. I’ve taught one of my daughters what I know. With her classes at a university on design, she has taken it to another height. We will talk about it in another series of articles.

You can go directly to the survey that is next to this article now or read what the survey is about.

It has been a while since I have written and it hasn’t been because I haven’t wanted to. My life has been turned upside down. Readers from my book “How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams,” have requested me to hold some seminars in our local area.

At the same time I started to do them, I received notice that I needed to rewrite six chapters of my new book due out in June. Everything I was working on was pushed to the side, including the blog. During my three seminars, my eyes were opened up to how many people are struggling with emotional pain and frustration. I have been healed for so many years, I had forgotten what it was like.

It has been overwhelming to realize how many people want me to personally help them rid themselves from emotional pain. Originally, I thought I could do it through blogging, telling people about how our minds process our life experiences. On the blog, I planned on explaining how to rid yourself of pain and prevent new pain to crowd in on your life.

I have spent forty years studying and researching how to heal or remove emotional scars. Somewhere along the way, I discovered how to unlock the mysteries and heal. The best part of it is what I learned is permanent. This has started a frenzy with others who want help.

The most interesting part of doing the three-hour seminar was that I learned how much knowledge I had collected over the past forty years. I expected in the three hours to expel all that I knew. Instead, I found myself lightly skimmed over the surface. When I went home from the first seminar, I wrote an outline of what I knew on each subject. The outline was single spaced and I had nine pages worth of material that I could expound on.

People are asking me for longer seminars. So I put together a short survey to learn what people want to learn. Then I’ll put the basic questions in a twelve to seventeen hour seminar. Please take the survey and tell me how you feel. Besides the survey, I would like you to leave comments on my blog, telling me how you would feel about being a part of a seminar on ridding yourself of emotional pain and live with passion.

Tell me if there was a way to erase tragedy in your life, what would it be worth to you? Please leave me a comment below and let me know how you feel. If you want to learn how my seminars are developing, you can sign up for an email update. Thank you for your time. You can go to the seminar at the top of the page. 

Depression can be complicated because it can have so many facets and triggers. In this series of articles, I’m going to attempt to break them down. This article is going to cover how we perceive what is happening around us.

Our perceptions of life are based on our thoughts. If you have negative thoughts, you see nothing but negative perceptions. Some can say “Hi” to us and we can take it as “What do they want?” We interrupt their words totally wrong, if we are embracing the negative side of life.

Love has a lot to do with our thoughts. Let me start by saying, love and hate are at the feeling and it is attacked to every thought. You might be wondering why love or hate is at the base of every thought? Our spirits come into the world fill with love. So every thought is anchored with the emotion. Somewhere, we choice to deplete our love and hate replaced it.

When we allow others to deplete our love, we can start deep a road of depression. With us being on this road, we see the negative side of everything and decide there is no beauty. If we can’t say something nice about someone, it means, we could be on this destructive path of depression. We could be depressed and not know it.

For an example, I found intermingled with depression was anger. We are usually anger about something. Anger is dangerous to hang onto. When you find your self thinking “this angers me,” you need to move quickly through it and let it go. Some of us chose to hold onto our anger and it can do some serious damage to our body. I can tell some story about it but I’ll talk about it in another article.

We need to let go of our negative thoughts. Another example, we have proven with plants how negative and positive words can affect them. If a plant gets exposed to a contact diet of words of hate. They will grow away from the source or they die. So what are we doing to your self? Depression is the by-product of negative thoughts. Hate and anger can sometimes hold us in this state of depression. You might be in complete control of your depression and maybe not. The maybe not, I want to walk about next.

Some people tell me that they find it hard to think of something positive. Others have expressed to me that they feel depressed about something. They can’t see it or have any knowledge to why they should feel this sad heaviness that is always there. Lately, I’ve heard a lot of people express that they have learned that depression runs in their family. So now how can this happen?

Scientists have proven lately that thoughts and feeling can be passed on from one generation to another. I can explain how this happens scientifically but I won’t go into it now. Right now, you need to know it happens and you need to make a decision on how you’re going to handle it.

So how do you identify if what you are feeling is your thoughts or ancestors? If you’re feeling negative feeling like a heaviness, loneness, and etc, it could easily be an ancestral thought. Especially, if you try to change it and you find yourself frustrated because you struggle to see anything-new happening. You might be able to will a new decision for a while but if you relax for a moment. It is right back there.

When this happens, it can be very frustrating. You feel like you are hitting your head up against a wall, trying to function. You can’t push it away and ignore it. This is a painful depression because you feel helpful to rid yourself of it. When this happens to you, we as humans tend to blame ourselves for your life not going the way we want. It might not be your fault.

If it’s ancestral, you can break the anchor and I’ve learned how to permanently heal the ancestral decision. To give you an example, let me tell you about a man, I happened to be in a class with. When we got onto this subject, he mentioned that he had a problem with hating his in-laws. He explained that he had never experienced anything negative with them but he felt anger and hatred towards any of his date’s parents. Yet, he was quite emotional expressing that he deeply loved his present in-laws. He emphatically expressed they had done nothing to him but show him kindness. So why did he feel this way?

The teacher asked his mind to research out the reason why? In his mind, he shortly saw his great grandfather standing on a porch of his fiancé’ house with a dingy single light. They wouldn’t allow him to see their daughter because they weren’t going to allow her to marry him. They felt he was the right person for her. He made the decision to hate in-laws. Since it was a decision made with a lot of emotions of hate and anger. It affected his progenitors. The decision attacked to his DNA and was passed on his grandson.

Once he had identified the problem, the teacher showed him how to reverse the moment with his great grandfather and permanently erase that memory from being apart of him. He walked out of the class never feeling that emotion again. When our ancestors chose not to forgive someone for their imperfections, their decision can be pass on to you and it can leave you confused and frustrated because you have no idea why you feel this way.

Next time, we’ll talk about more negative decisions that you can control and they cause depression.

Do you like to make New Year resolutions? At the beginning of every year, we all make or we talk about making ‘New Year resolutions.’ How many of us achieve our goals? Over the years, I’ve only met a handful of people who are pleased with their results at the end of the year. Most of us have forgotten what goals we set. We have lost interest early in the year or we decided they were too hard and we quit.
Why do some goals appear to be so hard to achieve? It could because the goal will require change and some of us don’t like change. Some of the time, change is a unknown factor and we aren’t sure if can handle it. If you find yourself afraid of the unknown, it is usually because we are afraid on how to handle it. What happens if something is something that I’ve never experienced before? Can I handle it? Will it be something that will hurt me?
If this is you, I suggest you might want to change your perspective regarding change. This is my favorite quote and it’s by Sir Winston Churchill. He said, “To improve is to change. To be perfect is to change often.”
Change can be wonderful, I choose to change a lot and it has brought me some wonderful rewards. The quote sat on my desk for quite awhile. Every time, I wanted to accomplish a goal. I usually saw that I would have to change something and do it different to achieve my goal. The quote reminded it was okay and everything would fine.
In my new book, ‘How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams’, I talk about how wonderful change can be in your life and how it can bless you. There is an art to change. If it is approached right, you can have change be wonderful. You need to do it with the right attitude or it will not be a good experience.
Remember, you can have everything taken away in this life. If you approach it right with the right attitude. You can rebuild a life that is stronger and far more vibrant then what was taken away. Please feel free to comment. Next time, I’m going to talk about any of these subjects below:
• Constants Fears
• Stress
• Unhappiness
• Abandonment – Finding Yourself Alone in Life
• Self Imposing Limits
• Change Core Beliefs
• Depression
• Fatigue
• Anxiety
• Anger
• Grief
• Guilt
• Negative Emotions
• Anxiety over Something that Might Happen in the Future
• Phobic Responses
• Inner Conflicts
• Learned how to stretch your mind. You have to conceive before you can achieve
• Trauma
• Self-Worth
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