Self- help book

You are probably wondering what this blog is all about! Let me tell you.

Let me introduce myself. My name is LaRene Ellis and I have a active licensed real estate broker’s license. I took an hiatus from real estate to write novels. My first book was an fictional young adult Scf-Fi series.It’s about how four white Stones that rules a galaxy. They disappear allowing evil to take over. (Ages 10-17)

Then I wrote my story and how I learned to find a deep joy after I was abandoned at the age of four. Life taught me that a deep joy comes from making the right decisions when you’re faced with a tough trial. If everything in your life was away from you suddenly, do you know how to replace it with more? If you can say yes, don’t purchase buy the book: How To Rebuild Shattered Dream.

My first young adult book

Life always throws you a curve. In November 2008, I was diagnosed with HER-2/neu-Positive Breast Cancer, stage four. Ten years ago, they sent you home and tried to make you comfortable until you died. Now, they have new drugs that might help. The treatment at times has been hard. I found the steps in my book have keep me from becoming depressed and asking why me?

You lose your hair, nails and dignity. The pain from the chemo at times was unbearable. During one stage, I felt like I had my fingers stuck in a light socket for three weeks. It was here, I found that the principle in my book gave me a deep joy, when I applied them. Again, the statement is so true. When you are faced with hard times and you make the right decisions. You experience a deep joy.The trick is to know what is a right decision and I will tell you in my book.

The doctors have given me the okay to return to work. I will continue with the seminars that will teach you how to find a deep joy no matter what you have experienced in life. I’m not sure when I’m going to have it available on-line. If you sign up for an update email. I will tell you and I do not bombard you with emails everyday. Sigh up for updates and I’m looking forward to knowing you all better.

Below, I have some short videos. You can see testimonials from people and a Doctor. I created the videos before I had cancer and I was just learning how to be technical. It seems like a life time ago. If I looked at them now, I would probably shake my head with embarrassment. I’ve changed my approach, since the cancer. Until, I can change them.  You are welcome to click on the links below to see the different video and laugh at them:

Thoughts of Encouragement

I have a short video on anger. You can click on it below:

Anger – Thoughts of Encouragement

Self – esteem and self-love! Is is missing from your life. I have some interesting information for you. Click on the line below:

Self-esteem thoughts of encouragement

One of my favorite quotes! “Man is that he might have joy” This is why? Check out the video below:

Disappointments! I started my life out being devastated with disappointments. I learned some secrets to get them to work for you and not against you. Look at the video below:

You are welcome here! I hope you find some answers or discover a new world of healing.

LaRene Ellis

Pink Orchads

In nine weeks my cancer almost disappeared. I went from a stage four, having three lymph nodes invaded by cancer, along with ninety percent of one breast, with Invasive Ductal Carcinoma being GONE. My cancer was a very aggressive carcinoma, which allowed it to be in other places outside of my breast. I had it in my bones and liver. They both had four separate places of cancer.

After nine weeks of chemo, they gave me another CAT scan.  They found it gone in my bones, lymph nodes, and breast. My liver still showed cancer, but it was smaller. So the radiologist measured the difference. They found the cancer had decreased by 70% in nine weeks.

There is more wonderful news. The doctor can’t feel any hard material in my breast and lymph nodes. The CAT scan indicated that it couldn’t detect a dead tumor in my breast or lymph nodes too. So how did it happen? I will share with you what I did and you can decide for yourself.

It was a combination of events. The one I feel had the most impact on me removing the cancer is a new drug that I’m testing for the FDA. I’ve also programmed my mind to work with the chemo to help destroy and eliminate the cancer from my body, by creating additional chemical.

There is more, and this part is important! I kept myself in a state of love for my situation and myself. Fear, worry, and doubt weren’t an option for me. I stayed in a state of gratitude and love for my situation. This is crucial when you are dealing with your body and mind. Negative thoughts pull you away from the healing powers of your Creator and His help. You need a package deal to pull this off and I’m pleased with the results and so is the doctor.

Another very important part of my package was I had hundreds of people praying for a miracle and it worked. All of the above acts played an important role, including what you eat. During this time, ninety percent of my diet was food that has been proven to heal. I felt the difference in my life and I plan on continuing it into the future.

In the very beginning of my cancer journey, a dear friend gave me a book put out by the University of California, San Diego Medical Center, Moores Cancer Center. They research healing foods. It’s called Discover the Healing Power of Food.

I quote: We believe that food nourishes the body, nurtures the spirit, and is essential for health and healing.

Vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and legumes have long been recognized as good sources of vitamins, minerals, and fiber. New research suggests that many of these plant-based foods contain other healing substances called phytochemicals (plant chemicals). These phytochemicals help protect plant-based foods from disease, and studies are revealing that eating a diet with plenty of phytochemical-rich foods may help protect humans from disease as well.

If you want more information regarding this book, you can find it at www.healthyeating.ucsd.edu. All proceeds from the sale of this book go to the Cancer Prevention and Control Program of the Moores UCSD Cancer Center.

Another act I did was to use essential oils to help sooth the effects of the chemo. I highly recommend them to be used properly. I plan on writing a separate article regarding them in the future. There is a lot to say about this and I found the oils to be very soothing. I deeply appreciated the knowledge that my son had about them. He and his wife had attended numerous classes. I felt very good about my complete routine and it helped me to enjoy the process, and that is saying a lot. Cancer and chemo can be rough and hard to handle personally.

Have you ever felt betrayed? The other day, I met a woman whose husband cheated on her numerous times. They attempted to divorce, but they ended up staying together. He changed and started to straighten out his life.

Yet for her, she suffered by reliving the feeling of his betrayal every time the phone rang at night, even though it was a friend or one of their children. The pain of the betrayal went deep for her to the point she couldn’t watch a movie or program where relationships were involved. This was her way of trying to heal from the pain. Hide from it! She avoided anything that reminded her of love, warmth, and affection.

The point to my story is she gave up trying to handle it herself and asked me for help. After one hour, she walked out of my office with her heart healed. The pain was gone and she had freedom to move on with her life. We do not realize how deep we can hurt each other. Was it her husband who really hurt her or was it herself?

There is more to this story. When I agreed to help her, I expected her problems started from her husband cheating on her. The mind is always surprising. When I sent her mind to the origin of her first feeling of betrayal, she found herself at the age of five.

At this tender age, she made a decision to how to handle betrayal. Apparently, she decided to be deeply hurt and hold onto her pain. Trust and many other issues came into the decision at the age of five. The miracle here is we changed her core belief or decision on how to handle betrayal. It automatically removed all her pain from her husband. We never addressed the issues with him.

In replacing her core decision, she made a strong new core belief to replace the old on. The new belief empowered her beyond her realization. Now, the mind will channel everything in her life through this new core belief decision. The new belief will allow her to enjoy her life like it was before she ever tasted the betrayal. Yet today, she has retained all the valuable lessons one gains by going through the experiences.

As for her husband, he is coming to see me so he can remove his triggers that seem to destroy his life. He wants the same benefits that his wife has found. Along with addictions to certain emotions, he has other destructive behaviors that keep him from having a happy and healthy life. It will be interesting to watch the changes in him. He has an apointment to see me in a few days. I’ll let you know what happens with him.

They both have read my book HOW TO REBUILD SHATTERED DREAMS. This is what modivated them to see me. You might find something in it for you. You can order it for $14.95 on this site or any Internet site.

Let’s take the power of colors and add them to your life. I’m going to add more articles about how color affects us in our homes and on us personally when we wear certain colors. Right now, we are going to cover the last of Leslie Kane’s article before we move on to other information.

Adding Color to Your Life
When you use colors to evoke a particular mood, you must take into account not only your own color preferences but also your environment outside the home, says Walch of the Color Association. To provide a psychological boost, your home should represent a color “break” from the outside environment.

For example, because the brown landscape in the Southwest offers very little color, people living there tend to favor flaming orange, hot pink and other vibrant colors in their homes.

“I think most people are color-deprived,” Walch says. “People have real color needs, just as they have food needs. It is human and healthy to desire color change. If I live in a white space all day at work, I need a splash of color at home. But,” she warns, “the bolder the color statement, the more quickly you may tire of it. You may love the idea of a red kitchen, but you grow bored with the real thing.”

Remember, too, that colors exist within a cultural context. “We can’t ignore the strong, long-standing associations people make with colors,” Walch says. “Take brown. The dying grass is brown; school desks are brown. We think of brown as dreary and utilitarian. So I wouldn’t want to paint my walls brown.”

When selecting paint, wallpaper, carpeting or furniture, keep in mind that color is partly determined by the light in which is seen. A carpet sample that looks fresh green under the store’s cool white fluorescent lighting will appear hunter green under daylight fluorescents and olive green at home under incandescent light. So be sure to check your paint or carpet in the lighting in which it will live. That way you won’t end up being so angry that you see red.

That bit of advice is very good. You do need to see your colors in the environment. Using color to create moods in your home is fun. I’ve taught one of my daughters what I know. With her classes at a university on design, she has taken it to another height. We will talk about it in another series of articles.

Depression can be complicated because it can have so many facets and triggers. In this series of articles, I’m going to attempt to break them down. This article is going to cover how we perceive what is happening around us.

Our perceptions of life are based on our thoughts. If you have negative thoughts, you see nothing but negative perceptions. Some can say “Hi” to us and we can take it as “What do they want?” We interrupt their words totally wrong, if we are embracing the negative side of life.

Love has a lot to do with our thoughts. Let me start by saying, love and hate are at the feeling and it is attacked to every thought. You might be wondering why love or hate is at the base of every thought? Our spirits come into the world fill with love. So every thought is anchored with the emotion. Somewhere, we choice to deplete our love and hate replaced it.

When we allow others to deplete our love, we can start deep a road of depression. With us being on this road, we see the negative side of everything and decide there is no beauty. If we can’t say something nice about someone, it means, we could be on this destructive path of depression. We could be depressed and not know it.

For an example, I found intermingled with depression was anger. We are usually anger about something. Anger is dangerous to hang onto. When you find your self thinking “this angers me,” you need to move quickly through it and let it go. Some of us chose to hold onto our anger and it can do some serious damage to our body. I can tell some story about it but I’ll talk about it in another article.

We need to let go of our negative thoughts. Another example, we have proven with plants how negative and positive words can affect them. If a plant gets exposed to a contact diet of words of hate. They will grow away from the source or they die. So what are we doing to your self? Depression is the by-product of negative thoughts. Hate and anger can sometimes hold us in this state of depression. You might be in complete control of your depression and maybe not. The maybe not, I want to walk about next.

Some people tell me that they find it hard to think of something positive. Others have expressed to me that they feel depressed about something. They can’t see it or have any knowledge to why they should feel this sad heaviness that is always there. Lately, I’ve heard a lot of people express that they have learned that depression runs in their family. So now how can this happen?

Scientists have proven lately that thoughts and feeling can be passed on from one generation to another. I can explain how this happens scientifically but I won’t go into it now. Right now, you need to know it happens and you need to make a decision on how you’re going to handle it.

So how do you identify if what you are feeling is your thoughts or ancestors? If you’re feeling negative feeling like a heaviness, loneness, and etc, it could easily be an ancestral thought. Especially, if you try to change it and you find yourself frustrated because you struggle to see anything-new happening. You might be able to will a new decision for a while but if you relax for a moment. It is right back there.

When this happens, it can be very frustrating. You feel like you are hitting your head up against a wall, trying to function. You can’t push it away and ignore it. This is a painful depression because you feel helpful to rid yourself of it. When this happens to you, we as humans tend to blame ourselves for your life not going the way we want. It might not be your fault.

If it’s ancestral, you can break the anchor and I’ve learned how to permanently heal the ancestral decision. To give you an example, let me tell you about a man, I happened to be in a class with. When we got onto this subject, he mentioned that he had a problem with hating his in-laws. He explained that he had never experienced anything negative with them but he felt anger and hatred towards any of his date’s parents. Yet, he was quite emotional expressing that he deeply loved his present in-laws. He emphatically expressed they had done nothing to him but show him kindness. So why did he feel this way?

The teacher asked his mind to research out the reason why? In his mind, he shortly saw his great grandfather standing on a porch of his fiancé’ house with a dingy single light. They wouldn’t allow him to see their daughter because they weren’t going to allow her to marry him. They felt he was the right person for her. He made the decision to hate in-laws. Since it was a decision made with a lot of emotions of hate and anger. It affected his progenitors. The decision attacked to his DNA and was passed on his grandson.

Once he had identified the problem, the teacher showed him how to reverse the moment with his great grandfather and permanently erase that memory from being apart of him. He walked out of the class never feeling that emotion again. When our ancestors chose not to forgive someone for their imperfections, their decision can be pass on to you and it can leave you confused and frustrated because you have no idea why you feel this way.

Next time, we’ll talk about more negative decisions that you can control and they cause depression.

On our local news the other night, they gave the national and local statistics on depression and suicides. It was disturbing to hear how high the numbers were. The numbers, I assume were based on people receiving help or those who have already committed or attempted suicide. What about the ones who are in denial or sitting on the edge?

It bothered me because I have been at both ends of the spectrum. As a child, I was very depressed and it was comfortable to be there. So what changed and how did I work myself out of this dark place. First, you need to know what caused the depression if you want to come out. For me, it happened at the age of four. My mother died and our father walked out on us. This experience plunged me into deep waters for survival.

Luckily, I was too young to understand how to end my life. My mother had taught me to pray before she left. Each night, I prayed for God to end my life. While other children were praying for a bike or something new. I wanted to stop breathing. The pain was too much for me, and I went deeper into depression every time I woke up.

So what happened? How did I come from such a dark beginning to a bright and wonderful life leaving all scars behind me? I did it without medication so I know exactly what steps I took. For the record, there isn’t a magic bullet. You can take steps to prevent yourself from getting in this state and keeping yourself out. Once, you get help.

I want to share what I did in hopes you find something helpful. The turning point in my life came unexpected and it showed me how scarred I was. I was an adult and my negative thought patterns were deeply entranced in my mind. In my book, How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams, I go into detail on how I got into this depression and how I came out. So here, I’m going to only give a highlight. If you want more information, there is always the book.

If you had asked me about depression years ago, I would’ve answered that I had never felt it. I wasn’t lying. What I’m saying is, I had never felt joy so I did not know the difference. How do you understand light, if you had never seen it?

This is what I discovered and I plan on covering it in the next four-blog articles. The plan is to break it down into small bits so you can see something useful to ingrain into your life. We are in denial not because we want to be. We are there because we do not know better or we’re afraid the truth might be unmanageable.

Before you can help yourself, you need to see where you truly are. This can be very frightening. At least, it was for me. Years ago, we had a son from his birth who always seemed angry. He had a big chip on his shoulder.

After weeks of trying different ideas, my husband, Jack came up an idea of taking our son to a mirror and not letting him leave until he had told himself twenty-five times that he loved Josh. After the first week, our son started to change.

For the next few paragraphs, I’m taking excerpts from my book.

In my amazement, Josh started to change. He became happier. One day, Jack invited me to see Josh repeat his words, I love Josh, twenty-five times. Grinning, Josh passed by as Jack smiled at me. Reaching a hand out to me, he asked, “Can you do it?”

Fear consumed me as I attempted to follow Josh. I said, “Sure, anyone can do that. It’s easy.” Before I could leave the doorway, Jack had a hold of my wrists and yanked me into the room. Leaving me in front of the mirror, he stood in the doorway and said, “You do it.”

As I stared at myself, I became even more afraid. The fear became so strong that I felt like Jack had just shoved me into a cage with a hungry tiger. I felt trapped, fear charging throughout every cell of my body. I looked at Jack with my face as white as a ghost. Not giving him notice, I charged him, expecting him to move.

He didn’t and I was so afraid. Not realizing what I was doing, I stepped on his thigh, attempting to climb over him. Jack grabbed a hold and pulled me down. With his arms wrapped around me, he easily brought me back in front of the mirror and repeated his words.

Seeing myself in the mirror, I fought to get away from his grip. Being only ninety-eight pounds, it was easy for Jack to hold me. He repeated his words and I pleaded with him to let me go. When he said no, I felt the invisible arms join him.

Being so familiar with Him, I pleaded with Him to help me get away from Jack. Instantly, I knew HE was was on Jack’s side as well. Looking at myself, I started to cry from the depths of my soul. By doing it, I saw in mind all the layer of shock that I had endured at the hands of others. For the first time, my soul felt the love from the invisible arms.

After being in Jack’s and my creator’s arms, I couldn’t get the vision of all the layers of scars out of my mind. What were they made from? How would i see them now for the first time? I had so many questions, not realizing what was being opened up to me. Hope was being breathed into my life, my soul, and my heart for the first time. It was a chance to rid myself of the pain I had endured for so many years. It started to consume me.

You have to see and embrace the fact you are depressed before you can change anything and get help. Next time, I want to talk about how to recognize the thought patterns that take you down the path towards depression. If you understand how to get there, you will know how to bring yourself back. Sign up for a update at the site www.Rebuild-Shattered-Dreams.com for the next installment.

The last time, we talked. I was trapped in a room within my house. My constant campaigns were a humidifier and air purifier. Quickly, my bedroom became boring even though I had a television. I watched movie and read books. In the past, they had been a wonderful way to spend my time. Now, I found myself becoming quickly bored of the constant diet of them. My mind craved for something different. What? What could I do when I couldn’t speak a word or leave my new friends.

In real estate, I was constantly on the go physically and I had to use my mind daily. You are always thinking about how you are going to sell someone’s house or help a buyer find their dream house. With nothing to think about, I was lost. This was a new feeling and it left me frustrated and panicky. What if I never get my voice back?

Years ago, I met a woman who had lost her voice and all she could do was whisper. It was something permanent with her. The thought seemed to torment me. Would I become like her? I needed to think about something else. But what?

It was nice to see my children. I’m a mother of six. They were all adults at this time so I was really left me to myself. My oldest son didn’t live too far from me and he would stop by often on his way home from work to see how I was doing. It surprised him to find me one day in my office with my air purifier and humidifier. It took work to move everything back and worth.

He wondered, what could I possibly being doing in there? I couldn’t use the phone and I had no email address. Quickly, he started to pressure me into divulging my activities. Successfully, I sidestepped them. I didn’t want to tell him why I was there. It embarrassed me to tell him that I was writing a story. I started to dread him stopping by. I was having fun and I didn’t want my newly created world to be shattered by him telling me that I couldn’t do it.

I would like to take you back to why I decided to move my friends into my office. After a couple of day in my bedroom, I decided to move into my office, looking for something to keep me from going stir crazy. It was worth the work of moving everything, if I could find something to entertain my mind that would allow me to avoid my thoughts. The woman I talked about earlier had permanently lost her voice and could never speak above a soft whisper. I remember her story was surrounded by a mysterious illness. My situation was so unique it reminded me of her. It concerned that I would end up like her?

I wanted to do something that would help me not think about her. So I moved into my office finding nothing that I could do without my voice. Shortly after being in my office, an idea came to me. What if I could write a story? Immediately, I went into a panicked state. The thought had triggered my past emotional pain. (If you want to know why I had a fear to write, you can read about it my book, How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams.)

The panicked feeling dissipated when I promised to never allow anyone to read it. Secluded in my office, I felt protected and the story seemed to ward off my negative thoughts. Little did I know that I was about to embark on the most fantastic journey. It was beyond anything I had ever imagined.

I had no clue that I was a creative person and my mind was starved to be one. Since, I had never allowed myself to ever think or do anything with writing. I used to make fun at being a writer. My favorite phrase was, “Why write it when a picture could replace a thousands words.” If it weren’t for this experience, I would’ve never discovered a hidden talent, love and passion for something that I had thought to be unattainable.

One thing, I did years ago before this experience. I took some classes on how the mind worked. We learned that our thoughts are always vibrating and moving. This is why sometime, we can be talking with someone and we both get the same idea or thought at the same time. We both happened to latch onto the same vibration as the thought. So our minds had the same thought.

I wanted to be a receiver of a new thought. Today, I needed it to be a story. So I asked my mind to connect with a wavelength of one and bring it to me. Being a mediating state, I kept my mind clear, waiting for something to happen. How long I sat there, I do not know. I just sat there until it happened.

“Time Out, I hate time Out.” The words started to flow into my mind and I immediately started to type them into the computer. The story changed my life and I dearly love it. This post is getting long. So I’ll continue the story in part 3. If you want to keep up or start from the beginning of my journey to becoming an author. You can subscribe to my email update; you’ll receive the previous post and the future ones.

I’ve had a goal for a year to get started with blogging. It seems like something always get in the way. With a new year, I’m going to blog and get to know you all.

For me, I’m use to teaching. I can see with blogging. You need to just talk. If I’m going to share myself, then I need to start at the beginning. People seem to find it interesting. It’s a surprised to me because I think my life is boring.

I was abandoned at the age of four being told no one wanted my two siblings or me. My life mirrored the words of my father. I raised myself. My sibling and I were spilt up and really didn’t get to see each other. No one stepped in on our lives, inviting us to be permanently apart of their family.

As a child, I want into a deep spiritual depression at the young age of eight. It’s an interesting story on how I worked my way out. If I was old enough to understand suicide, I think I would have done it.

Today, I’m not a just a survivor of a serious bad situation. This is important for you to know. I’m a conqueror. I dearly love my past. It taught me lessons about life that I now share with others. People are changing their lives.

I’m an author of numerous books and I teach seminars on how to deal with disappointments and rebuild shattered dreams. Disappoints are very important aspect of your life. They make up of who you are. So often, we wear them on our sleeve as a badge of pain. This is why I can’t have a wonderful life. This happened to me.

Do you find yourself doing something that isn’t really what you want to do? How often have you tried to change it only to have it unmovable? Or you will the behavior to change only to have it come back when you relax. It is possible to change anything about your life with ease when you know how to do it?

I’ve learned we easily can and do program our minds. Is your mind working against or for you? I have so many subjects that I could talk about it. I’m not sure where to begin.

Ask me what it is that you keep hitting up against a wall and you just seem like you can’t get through it. Tell me what it is and I can tell you how to understand what is happening to you. Maybe, you can understand how to change your life?

I think our society has changed over the years. One area that bothers me is what people refer to as the term ‘politically correct.’ In the past, no one thought about saying, “That offends me, so you have to change everything to make me comfortable. One example, you can’t sing the traditional Christmas song or say a prayer in public places.

We can go on and on today about how people’s individual opinion has changed our society. In my opinion, our society today has become sterile and dull. If we go back to the building of our country, people flowed here from every country for religious freedom. Together, we build the greatest society the world has ever seen.

What is our secret? I’ve heard many opinions.  As I watched our society evolve over the decades, I think I know what our secret is. We all know every thought is based on love or hate to one degree or the other.

For an example, we accept someone differences in thoughts and religion. Our judgment is based on love. When we become offended, we are basing our judgment from hate. We all know that love is more powerful than hate. This is what has made America powerful. It’s her people having tolerance and accepting others are different and its okay. We are choosing the most powerful law. LOVE!  Let’s keep sharing the joy!  Let me know how you feel about this?