Many years ago, people worked hard with their hands to build something, or to plant a field to take care of their families.

Today, our job market has changed. Most of us have found that the weight of our job has to do with our mind and not our bronze. Computers have changed so much for us for good and bad. Maybe, it was healthy for us to use our bronze more. In the process, life has changed our perception of success and how to achieve it.

Many of us have chosen to measure our success by how many things we own or the brand of products we perceive mean success. Is that really success? Or is our perception of success a facade that leaves us with an empty feeling? If you have a strong sense of what success is to you, don’t read on. You already know. If you are questioning or searching, I have a short story for you.

Someone told me a story and I would like to give the credit to someone, but I can’t remember where I heard this story.

A man wanted success and decided to learn how others perceived success. So he interviewed others and received a wide range of opinions. Nothing seemed to be consistent. Everyone had a different view of what success meant to them.

Finally, he shyly approached the man who seemed to have it all. The man had houses, cars, travel, and a family. He wanted to know what he thought about success. He was shocked to hear the man who seemed to have it all say that he did not see himself as being successful.

He answered, “I have never experienced success. I’m still trying to achieve it.”

“What would it take to feel successful?”

“Right now, I make about $400,000 a year. If I could make $500,000, then I would feel successful.”

“Do you feel like you are happy with your life?” I asked.

“No. I can’t be happy until I reach my goal.”

Soon after, he met a man who seemed very happy. He couldn’t stop smiling. When he asked him how he viewed success. The man answered, “If I wake up and I’m above ground, then I’m successful.”

Our minds need to answer that question and many more. So how does our mind find it’s answers? I would like to give you an example. My sister gave me permission to tell you this story.

She happened to be going through a very stressful situation. We were talking, when out of the blue, she asked me. “Do you eat when you are in a stressful situation?”

“No. I will do the opposite.”

“Then why do I want to eat when I’m so stressed? I can’t seem to stop it?”

I answered, “If you want to change it, you can do it.”

She immediately agreed. So I started to talk to her subconscious mind. Suddenly, she saw herself as a one-month-old baby at a time of great stress for her. She was tired of waiting to be feed. When our mother did feed her, she told herself that ‘she liked it.’ The mind is very powerful. She did not realize that she had just programmed her mind to crave food when she was stressed.

We replaced or reprogrammed the mind to handle stress in a different way.

Now, you know that we start to program our minds while we are in diapers. It happens, when we think that ‘we like this.’ When we do it with emotion, our minds will not budge.

Every time, we have had a new experience in our lives and our emotions were involved with it, we made decisions that control our future. Now, we are adults. Sometime, we find unexplained caving, desires and situation that we can’t explain. It is because our unconscious mind is not paying attention to our thoughts today. Instead, our mind is running off of our first decision to handle a situation. Have you found it hard to break a habit?

When you know how the mind works, you can change and permanently remove the habit very quickly. After I learned how to reprogram my mind, I discovered talents that I never knew I had. It was great to stop being afraid of heights. Now, I can enjoy a beautiful view.

I wrote my book, “How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams” so I could share with others what I learned. In the past, I was terrified of the unknown. Now, I grin and walk into the unknown in peace. My fear is gone because I have skills to handle any situation.

What do you want to change? Leave me a comment and tell me, then I will tell you if it’s possible. You don’t even have to use your real name. No one will know who you are. If you want more information on how to buy my book. “How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams.”  Go to www.LaReneEllis.com . for an autographed copy. Amazon carry it too..

With me having chemo, I’ve had sometime to think. Thinking can be dangerous to your health! At least, I’ve heard that phrase somewhere. Since, I feel like I’ve been out of the loop of what is going on. I’m not talking about the news. I’m talking about the things that are important to you. What is the consensus of people today? I’ve put together a short survey. Do you dare take it? Will it put you over your stress level?

I titled this blog: How Important is your money because we seem to find it very important. But what about other areas of our lives. Are hobbies important? I think they make life worth living at times. Other time, they are be heavy and almost a burden. How do you feel?

What about cooking? Are we really that interested in foods? Or are you interested becasue we can’t  live without it. I would really like to know what ticks on the inside of you. So I have a challenge for you. Let’s see what interests you and see if you are in the majority or minority. Click here to take this survey.

Lately, we had the manufacturers of outdoor equipment hold a show in our city. They paid for a poll that the news reported on. The poll asked teenagers across the nation what outdoor equipment they liked or were interested in the most. The outdoor equipment folks were shocked by the answers to their questions, which caused our local news to report it.

Teenagers weren’t interested in anything that had to do with outdoors. They would rather watch other people enjoy it on the Internet. This is helpful since Yellowstone just put “Old Faithful” on the Internet. You can see eruptions from your computer. Since, I’ve seen “Old Faithful” erupt in person numerous times. The mist on your face and feeling the power of the geyser really adds to the experience.

My next story is dedicated to those people who would rather enjoy the outdoors on the Internet. Since, we all know that breathing deeply releases stress from our bodies. I request you take some deep breaths now and during the story. So you can benefit from the exercise and adventure that I’m about to tell you.

This story takes place on a twenty-eight thousand acre island that sits in the middle of the Great Salt Lake. The largest salt-water lake in the world and it’s only thirty minutes from downtown Salt Lake City. Our mountains are close by, you can reach them from fifteen to thirty minutes from downtown. The time depends on where you are going.

On Antelope Island, you can bike, camp, hike or do my favorite, horseback riding. We share the island with approx. 550-700 bison or buffalo, as I like to call them. When you are on the trails, you can see coyotes, mule deer, prong horned antelope, bobcats , badgers, porcupines and jack rabbits. The animals I see the most are buffalo and jackrabbits. Winter, late fall and early spring is the best time to ride on the island. The summers are too hot and we would rather ride in the mountains where it is cool.

What I like about the island, there is no civilization on it. You feel like you are back in the old west. There is one bird species on the island that I dearly love. The meadowlark is there abundantly. In the spring, you can hear them all around you singing back and forth to each other. They are my favorite songbird.

One day, my husband and our neighbor were riding horses on the island. They were following the trails like they were requested to do. This day, the trail they were on went along the edge of the shores. The water was still and blue. Then the trail left the shores and headed up the side of a tall hill. They were reaching the top when they encountered a lone buffalo bull all by himself.

As they passed him, my husband pulled out his camera to take a picture. Before he could take it, the bull charged them. Somehow, he held onto the camera but lost his cowboy hat.  His horse, Socks,  bolted down the path with our neighbor following him. They hadn’t gone far when the bull stopped chasing them. Our neighbor had been riding on the island for ten years and he had never had a buffalo bother him. So he decided to go back for my husband’s hat.

When he reached the hat, Jay got off his horse and picked it up. The bull decided that he wanted the hat. He charged them. Jay jumped on his horse with the hat and off at a full gallop. Touchy, his horse, was fast. It became a race and the bull was gaining. Now, we understand why our ancestors wrote in their journals that it was dangerous to hunt them. They can ran fast or faster than a horse.

They have a strange shape and you wouldn’t think they could move fast because of it. It didn’t take the bull long to have his head in the tail of Jay’s horse. Before he rammed his horse, the bull just stopped.

What a memorable ride. I hope you were breathing deeply so you get the advantages of the exercise and relieve some stress. It’s great to get out and take a deep breath of fresh air. it really has a great affect on us.

The next time, you need to relax and you can’t go on a ride, hike, or walk. Close your eyes and take in a deep breath. It will relieve stress and it might help you get through the day a little healthier and easier. Have a great day!

Do you like to make New Year resolutions? At the beginning of every year, we all make or we talk about making ‘New Year resolutions.’ How many of us achieve our goals? Over the years, I’ve only met a handful of people who are pleased with their results at the end of the year. Most of us have forgotten what goals we set. We have lost interest early in the year or we decided they were too hard and we quit.
Why do some goals appear to be so hard to achieve? It could because the goal will require change and some of us don’t like change. Some of the time, change is a unknown factor and we aren’t sure if can handle it. If you find yourself afraid of the unknown, it is usually because we are afraid on how to handle it. What happens if something is something that I’ve never experienced before? Can I handle it? Will it be something that will hurt me?
If this is you, I suggest you might want to change your perspective regarding change. This is my favorite quote and it’s by Sir Winston Churchill. He said, “To improve is to change. To be perfect is to change often.”
Change can be wonderful, I choose to change a lot and it has brought me some wonderful rewards. The quote sat on my desk for quite awhile. Every time, I wanted to accomplish a goal. I usually saw that I would have to change something and do it different to achieve my goal. The quote reminded it was okay and everything would fine.
In my new book, ‘How to Rebuild Shattered Dreams’, I talk about how wonderful change can be in your life and how it can bless you. There is an art to change. If it is approached right, you can have change be wonderful. You need to do it with the right attitude or it will not be a good experience.
Remember, you can have everything taken away in this life. If you approach it right with the right attitude. You can rebuild a life that is stronger and far more vibrant then what was taken away. Please feel free to comment. Next time, I’m going to talk about any of these subjects below:
• Constants Fears
• Stress
• Unhappiness
• Abandonment – Finding Yourself Alone in Life
• Self Imposing Limits
• Change Core Beliefs
• Depression
• Fatigue
• Anxiety
• Anger
• Grief
• Guilt
• Negative Emotions
• Anxiety over Something that Might Happen in the Future
• Phobic Responses
• Inner Conflicts
• Learned how to stretch your mind. You have to conceive before you can achieve
• Trauma
• Self-Worth
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